i was at the check-out counter sitting in my wheelchair, listening to the customer behind me talk to the cashier.
he looks at her and says she looks tired.
she rings through one more of my purchases and she it has been a long day.
when I see myself acting negatively, I do my best to exchange the acts for something positive.
I do this too ,PaintedToeNail ! Happiness has to come from with in ourselves . Change your thoughts ,change your world .
I struggle to do this ,but I know the effects of negative thinking ,and I do not want that for myself anymore .
i'm really interested in this question because i've heard for years that if you forgo further education and go pioneering, when you have a family down the track you will get a good job because jehovah will provide for you because you pioneered.
as long as i was a kool-aid drinker, even then, i thought, "how does pioneering pay your bills?
surely education should come first.
Yes ,I am one of those feeling the effects of the wonderfully wrong Watchtower advice on education. I was always a good student ,and loved science and art . In High School I was an Honor student ,and graduated top of my class . Teachers tried to convince me to go on to college ,my worldly Grandfather offered to pay for school . However my Witness Mother had always drilled into me the end was near ,and a career would be a waste of time . I was afraid the end would come ,and at 18 all I wanted to do was get married have children before it was too late .My husband became a witness in his teens and because of other family problems had to start working as a teenager.
Now we are in our fifties ,and still work physically demanding jobs . I work three part-time jobs with no benefits . None of my jobs pay well . My husband is very smart and mechanically inclined .He has taught himself so many things, yet he is stuck in a job that exposes him to harmful chemicals and exhuasting work . We feel trapped because we are too old to change jobs now .
I would just burn up when they gave parts at assemblies about some kid being glorified for giving up a scholarship in order to pioneer....
i have just read the book, life ascending by nick lane, which discusses the possibility of luca originating in alkaline hydrothermal vents.
then this morning i heard about this story.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/science-environment-21520404.
Very interesting ,thanks for sharing !
so it has been over a month, maybe closer to two that i haven't attended a meeting.
my stress level has gone way down, and my life is pretty good right now.
well as you know, there are tons of nosy witnessess.
I told my Mother in Law that we were not attending because I needed a break . I was not happy ,and needed time to sort out my feelings and thoughts . She asked me if it was because of something someone in the hall had said or done ,and I told her no . She became angry and wanted to know if I had disassociated myself ,and I said No . Then I just told her it was personal ,and a private issue that I wanted to work out on my own .I told her I would appreciate her keeping out of it .( I didn't want her sending in a rescue squad of Elders ) I refused to elaborate on it or go into details .
i am a non jw who has been doing a fair amount of research on my own in hopes of finding some answers and understanding for my current heartwrenching situation:.
i have been dating a man for the last while, and we grew very close, very quickly.. .
suddenly he has pulled away from me, gotten very skittish and says he feels like he is leading a double life, and isn't ready for a relationship.. all the while stating that his impending divorce is the reason for his cold feet, which could be understandable except the marriage was very much "over" long ago.
RUN ! Seriously run .... He is toying with you and you will get hurt .
righto, so who would like to get married?
i'm a great cook, good with kids, can clean and am currently in the process of losing weight.
in 6 months i'm good to go.
Hope you find a better position soon ,it sucks to be stuck in a job you hate .
righto, so who would like to get married?
i'm a great cook, good with kids, can clean and am currently in the process of losing weight.
in 6 months i'm good to go.
.......oops
.....sorry son .......move along now nothing to see here ,nothing at all .....let's just all concentrate on the Meteor that exploded in Russia shall we .
righto, so who would like to get married?
i'm a great cook, good with kids, can clean and am currently in the process of losing weight.
in 6 months i'm good to go.
Well it just so happens I have a single son ....
He is cute ,has his own job ,does not live in my basement ,and so far has his own teeth and a full head of hair ! What a catch ! Would you like to live in the middle of no where Iowa ,USA ? Of course he may shoot me if he knew I was trolling for women for him ....but he does keep asking for a girlfriend for Christmas !!!
I will send him a link to this thread and you two can work out the minor details !
what are the consequenses of breaking an engagement between two jws which lasted 2 years?.
In the JW world long engagements are frowned upon because it could lead the couple into pressure to commit immorality ,so says the Watchtower
I remember a couple of instances were couples broke off their engagement , in the first one the man was reproved .In the other instances a talk was given about keeping our word ,making our yes mean yes type of talk ,but I don't remember them getting any restrictions .
so i am not even out yet and i feel as though i have already lost my best friend.. i asked her if i could use her as a reference on an apartment rental if i decide to go the route of separation from my husband.
she knows all of what i went through in my marriage and how much pain and suffering that i have endured.. at first she said yes, no problem, then she asked if i would be speaking to the elders about it, and i said no, she asked why not, i said that is my choice to do or not do.. her response was that i pray and speak to the elders and that she thinks it best that i don't use her as a reference because she would feel that she was supporting my decision to separate.
i said fine but i also said that her response seems to be more of a concern about me speaking to the elders rather than being concerned for my well being.
So what she is saying is that she doesn't want to look bad in the eyes of the Elders if it turns out they don't support your move .
I am so sorry she can not find her true self ,and support you as a real friend should . She is folding under pressure to conform to 'what will the Elders think ' ,instead of normal true friendship thinking that should be ,'How can I support and help my friend with her goals "
Very sorry . Can you use someone else for a reference maybe from work ?
